I enjoy attending traditional weddings and functions. They are beautiful! The happiness aura, you can only see smiling faces. I always take a seat in the corner and observe the ritual and people. They run around greeting each other, form circles and gossip, admire and boast about their jewellery, exchange contacts, the long lost friends and cousins hug each other. I have seen few cry in happiness. How beautiful! Oh! I love weddings!
Today, I attended a wedding – a different one. A man who turned 70 remarried his wife again. I asked my mom about this custom. Why do they get married to each other again? She answered that it is to show the world that he is 70 years old and they are still happily married. How sweet! The old couple dressed up like bride and groom, sitting at the altar and for a change their children were running around greeting everybody. Their children were all grown up and have a family of their own. Their grandchildren were enjoying the occasion running around the wedding hall. It was a cute wedding. After the wedding got over they made the bride and groom sit on a chair and all the young ones, especially the couples took their blessings. There was an emotional moment when the groom started to cry and I teased him, ‘I know they got you trapped again with the same lady after so many years! It’s sad indeed’ he laughed heartily and to my surprise the bride blushed. OH-MY-GOD I have never seen such a romantic lovely wedding in my life.
As I sat there looking at the couple there was a thought lingering in my mind. While our elder generation had led such simple and uncomplicated life, how complicated have we made our lives!
Yes, we have made it very complicated. We don’t want to be committed to a person because we were hurt once. From friends with benefits to open relationship we adopted everything from the western culture that would make your life restless and complicated. We have made committed and being single a style statement. Honestly, we don’t know what we want out of a relationship or our life. We hurt ourselves and we hurt each other. We call it moving on but we never move on. We are still hurt and petrified from the past wounds that we fail to trust the people in future. We think we are better off alone but deep down always crave for that someone. We only try to fit in our past into the future and never attempt make fresh mistakes, learn from them and move on. We don’t trust the ones with whom we have spent a lifetime and ourselves. We are so impatient about everything and break down very easily. It is not the way it is these days, it is the way we have built ourselves into.
As our lifestyles improved and as we grew more modern, our minds stopped working. We crave for money and all the materials. We give less value to people. We love a person today and we want them out of our lives the next day. We find it hard to forgive mistakes and carry guilt, rage and regrets. We stopped meeting friends. We meet them on whatsapp and Facebook. We live in a 16 inch gadget. Honestly, I have started hating smart phones because my friends have preferred chatting with me on whatsapp than talking to me. Infact over the past 3 weeks I have considered selling my phone a lot of times! I don’t want it anymore. I want people around me. I want to meet them every weekend. I want the life I was living without smartphones, facebook and whatsapp. I liked to read the news from the paper than on my tab. I hate ebooks it does not give the smell of a new book! Pathetic part of it we are missing the fun of shopping we have online shopping!! No way!
We don’t really understand what we are missing in life. We have become a slave of technology although its good in lot of ways that it lets us stay in touch with our loved ones who are far away, it does distance them in reality! I was wondering if I would find my Mr. Perfect and even if I do, would we tolerate each other for such a long time as these old couple. I don’t know!
We really need to reconsider the way we live! Yes, we do.
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